How to manage child behaviour problems: 7 Common child behaviour problems and their solutions

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Do you ever wonder what falls into the category of serious child behaviour problems? Well, a few tantrums, arguments, and yelling once in a while is normal. But if you notice these behavioral traits growing into your kid’s life daily, there is a cause for concern.child behaviour problems

 Do you ever witness these child behaviour problems in your kids? 

Sometimes finding out if your kids are having trouble is not easy. So, how would you know that your child’s behaviour is abnormal? Let’s check out some common indicators:

    Frequent outbursts

    Minor things start to bother

    Difficulty managing emotions

    If your kid becomes impulsive (hitting, throwing things, screaming, etc)

    When your otherwise talkative child goes silent, talks back, and seems rude for no reason.

    Your kid might start lying more often. He/she might also end up stealing or taking things that don’t belong to them.

    Behaviour starts affecting performance at school.

    Spats or disagreements that your kid has with peers become a problem to his/her social life.

    Unable to focus on a particular thing, getting restless, extremely lazy, or disoriented.

    Indulging in sexual behaviour not appropriate for their age.

    When your kid starts questioning your instructions and doesn’t respond to discipline.

    Harming themselves or even thinking about it is a cause of worry.

 All of these signs mentioned above indicate that your child is suffering from behavioural problems which need to be handled with attention, love, and most importantly care.

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 Common child behaviour problems and their solutions

 Disrespecting and talking backdisrespecting and talking back

As much as it seems adorable and funny that your 3-year old child talks back to you, it’s not the case when this happens with a 7-year-old. If your child, at the age of 7 years or above, yells ‘no’ every time you tell them to do something, it can really get to your nerves leading to arguments between the two of you. So, here’s what you should do:

 If your child talks back but follows what you asked, then ignore talking back to them and appreciate them for listening to you. But, if your kid’s response is threatening others or self, then you must pay attention to what they’re saying and handle it carefully. Make sure you don’t respond impulsively and let your kid calm down. Either way, you’ll have to explain to them that it might be okay for them to be angry but it is not okay for them to speak disrespectfully. You must take time to explain to them about what behaviour is acceptable and what’s not. You should also set limits and flexible expectations for your kids to be happy.

 Lastly, you need to take a quick check of how you behave with the kids and others while they’re around. If you’re rude and disrespectful, then you need to start changing your behaviour before you start pointing out your kids for the same.

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 Common child behaviour problems – kid problems and solutions

 Abusive language

Children usually scream and yell when they’re angry but if they start abusing then that should worry you. To avoid such a thing from happening again, make sure you’re not using foul language in front of kids, have zero tolerance for verbal abuse at home, and explain the consequences. If you ever, even by mistake, use a foul word in front of your kids, apologize immediately.

 Aggressive or violent behaviouraggressive or violent behaviour

The easiest way to respond to aggression in children is to lower your tone and tell your kid to calm down. Try to empathize with their feelings but make it clear that being violent is not allowed and will have consequences. Most importantly, be a good role model and avoid giving them any physical punishment. Rewarding kids for having a positive and non-aggressive behaviour will also help.


It is generally common for children to lie so don’t take it personally. Instead, think about it from your child’s perspective and try to understand what compelled them to lie to you in the first place. Teach your kids to be honest rather than being scared of telling truths that might have negative consequences.

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 Common child behaviour problems – kid problems and solutions


Bullying is a serious issue that results in emotional and physical abuse of the victim. This is common in children as they tend to do this to feel powerful and to resolve their social problems easily. Usually, when children don’t find a way to deal with their own feelings, they tend to take on bullying to fix things. If your kid is doing so, then you’ve got to act immediately. Start teaching your kids that bullying is wrong.


As tricky as manipulation is, it’s also exhausting. So, when your child acts out, lies, or cries to get what they want, make sure that you don’t give in. This is where you can stop them from manipulating you as they grow. Even a simple lash out for a candy bar can make way for your childs manipulative behaviour. You should expect your child to fight with you every time you say no.

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Lack of motivation/Lazinesslack of motivation

Do you see that your child is not interested in doing anything at all? Is he/she not interested in schoolwork, art, music, dance, and refuses to participate in any event? Well, here is your call for motivating them. We know it’s not easy to motivate kids when they’re lazy buy you need to help them out. So, here are some tips that’ll help you get through:

    Don’t be anxious about their behaviour.

    Tell them stories about your childhood to inspire and encourage them to try something new.

    Don’t force your kid to take up a hobby. Give them options and let them choose.

    Take a step back and check if you’re not forcing your kid to do something. Let them try self-motivation.

    Assign your kid to do some or the other household chore and set limits like we’ll watch a movie once you’re done with it or something that sounds like a treat.

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 If you feel that even after you try your best, the child’s behaviour has not improved, seek professional help. A good counselor will be of help as they are trained and can help in not only digging out the root cause of the erratic behaviour of the child but may also be able to help in improving your relations with your child. Don’t ignore things for a long time taking it as just a childish behaviour as they may deteriorate with time.

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